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#  Why Success Never Feels Like It Should & Are You Really Responsible for Your Actions?

November 26 2023

Written by Mike Carruthers.

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Texting and email seem to have replaced the telephone as a primary means of communication. Still, the telephone is sometimes a better option. When it is – how can you make sure you get a call back or a response of some kind? Listen and I’ll tell you. Source: Bill Jensen author of [Simplicity Survival Handbook (https://amzn.to/3MMDmt7).](https://amzn.to/3MMDmt7)

Have you ever accomplished a goal and thought – “Hey if I can do that, what ELSE can I accomplish?” It seems success is rarely totally satisfying. Instead, it creates an itch for more success. That place in your brain where that happens is what my guest calls “Wonderhell.” And it turns out to be a fascinating place to explore. Listen as I speak about it with Laura Gassner Otting. She is frequently featured on Good Morning America, The Today Show and Harvard Business Review and she is author of the book[ Wonderhell: Why Success Doesn’t Feel Like it Should and What to Do About It (https://amzn.to/40EycFi)](https://amzn.to/40EycFi)

There are actually people who believe that you are not responsible for your actions or decisions. In other words, that you have no free will. They believe everything is predetermined – that it is unfair to punish criminals, for example, because whatever they did wrong was not their choice. Then there is the other side of the argument. Joining me to explain why we do have free will – and to help try to understand why some people believe we do not is Kevin Mitchell, an associate professor of genetics and neuroscience at Trinity College Dublin and author of the book, [Free Agents: How Evolution Gave Us Free Will (https://amzn.to/49vncy2)](https://amzn.to/49vncy2) Here is the [link](https://www.somethingyoushouldknow.net/566-do-we-really-have-free-will-how-to-handle-rejection-better/) for the episode featuring Robert Sapolsky arguing against free will: <https://www.somethingyoushouldknow.net/566-do-we-really-have-free-will-how-to-handle-rejection-better/>

You frequently hear people say the phrase, “*That’s a whole nother story.*” But is nother a real word? That depends. Listen as I explain. <https://www.merriam-webster.com/grammar/whole-nother>

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